Thanks to chance, I came across a post about The Quiet Rich. One part stood out to me: being RICH in Time.

Who do we truly spend the most time with in life?
The graphs I saw illustrate this clearly—and they remind us how important it is to notice who we give our time to.

I’ve been reflecting on each of these graphs. My thoughts may differ from yours, and yours will differ from others. But I believe it’s worth pausing to look closely, and to have your own reflections too.

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TIME WITH PARENTS

Our parents are with us most when we are children. But what about later—when we grow up, when we have kids of our own, when they grow older?

Not all parents are great parents. Some of us carry childhood trauma that creates distance. But trauma doesn’t have to pass on forever. We can be the ones to stop it from traveling across generations. It may not have started with us, or even with our parents—it could have been carried for decades, even centuries. But we can choose differently.

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TIME WITH FRIENDS

I don’t have a huge circle of friends, but I do have a few close ones I deeply trust. With them, I can be vulnerable, speak freely, and know I won’t be judged.

Some I only hear over the phone, some I see every day as co-workers. Many of them have been in my life for 5, 10 years or more—and I hope they’ll be there for another 20.

In my dream house, I picture a place with plenty of rooms, so they can come visit on special occasions, and we’ll keep creating memories together.

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TIME WITH CO-WORKERS

We spend one-third of our days with colleagues. For me, they’ve become more than co-workers—they’re friends, partners in both joy and hardship.

When I’ve moved to new companies, I’ve invited past colleagues to join me. Each time, we’ve built something strong together. Work isn’t just a workplace—it’s a second home. If you find it to be a good one, bring more good people in. Build a community of shared energy and values.

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TIME WITH A PARTNER

If you dream of a soulmate, you dream of spending decades—perhaps 60 years or more—side by side.

For me, starting later means I’ll need to live longer to reach that number (maybe until 90!)—but I still believe in it :”>

A life partner is the one person you’ll spend the most time with. Don’t settle. Know your boundaries, know what you value. It’s better to wait longer for the right one than to live with the wrong one.

The older I get, the clearer it becomes: I want a partner I can trust completely, communicate openly with, and simply be myself around. A partner with whom love flows unconditionally, both ways.

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TIME WITH KIDS

This graph reminds me: we only have a limited window with our children. These years pass quickly—so we need to treasure them.

I think of the line from Interstellar: “Once you’re a parent, you’re the ghost of your children’s future.”

But what defines “successful parenting”? that the kids get the Straight A’s? A high salary? Fame? Financial support from them when parents are at our old age?

For me, I just want my son to be happy. To feel satisfied with his life. To experience enough—not too much, not too little.

In the end, my hope is simple: that we always keep a strong connection. That he feels confident in his independence, but knows I will always be here for him. That, to me, is more than enough.

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TIME ALONE

The time we spend with ourselves is just as important as the time we spend with a partner, kids, family, friends, colleagues, etc.

Being alone doesn’t mean being lonely. It means choosing to enjoy your own company.

I used to attach my emotions to others, shaped by a love I felt missing as a child. But once I learned to define and refill that “love tank” for myself, I understood the beauty of solitude.

I now enjoy reading alone in the morning, walking, eating, traveling, even going to bookstores or movies by myself. None of it feels sad or pitiful—it feels intentional. It’s not about fear of people, or anxiety. It’s about choosing me-time.

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At the end of the day, being RICH in Time means noticing where your hours flow, and choosing consciously who you give them to. Because those choices quietly shape the story of our lives.

Thank you.